Deborah Victor-Ayoola
Certified Marriage & Family Life Counselor
Helping individuals and couples build marriages according to God's design.
Certified Marriage & Family Life Counselor
Helping individuals and couples build marriages according to God's design.
Courtship Compass – A practical guide with 150+ critical questions singles should ask before marriage.
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Love Is Not Enough – The book LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH seeks to answer some of these questions and shed more light on the other aspects to be considered to have a happy and successful marriage.
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Deborah Victor-Ayoola is a certified marriage and family life counselor from The Institute for Marriage and Family Affairs, Driven by a God-given vision to help individuals do marriage according to God's original design, Deborah is on a mission to curb the rising divorce rate, equip singles with the tools for intentional courtship, and champion the restoration of the family system as a foundation for societal transformation and nation building. She is the convener of the Catch Them Young Conference, which empowers singles with the knowledge and spiritual tools to build godly marriages, and the founder of The Godly Marriage Tribe, a growing online community that nurtures singles in their journey toward marriage. Alongside her husband, she co-hosts the annual Kingdom Marriage Conference, focused on helping couples realign with biblical marriage principles. Deborah is the author of Courtship Compass, a practical guide featuring over 150 critical questions singles should ask before settling down. Her vision includes influencing marriage policies at national and institutional levels. She also aims to partner with universities to deliver pre-marital programs to tertiary institutions students, preparing them early for marital success. Her work directly contributes to several Sustainable Development Goals (SDGs), including SDG 3 (Good Health and Well-being), SDG 4 (Quality Education), SDG 5 (Gender Equality), and SDG 16 (Peace, Justice, and Strong Institutions). Deborah’s voice is rising to become a leading advocate for family transformation in Africa and beyond, and her ultimate vision is to be remembered as a global voice who redefined the family system through godly marriage.
Deborah currently launched a 6-month series of free monthly pre-marital counseling sessions, which started in June. The goal is to prepare individuals early for marital success, by equipping them with the necessary tools and knowledge they need, thereby bridging the information gap and curbing the rising rate of divorce using the prevention is better than cure approach.
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Scripture says, “Where there is no vision, the people perish.” It’s the same in relationships. Feelings fade.Seasons change. But vision? That’s what anchors you when life gets messy. “What’s the vision for your relationship?”The mission! The purpose! The why! One mistake I see people make is thinking that “leading” in marriage means one person decides, and the other just follows.That’s not vision. That’s dictatorship. Marriage isn’t about control.It’s about co-creation.Two people, led by God, coming together to build something greater than themselves. When I say shared vision, I mean both of you submitting to God’s will together. Yes, someone may carry the seed of the vision.But it takes agreement, alignment, and unity to carry it to full term. I want to help you create a shared vision with your partner.
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Deborah listened to understand, she was able to dissect the issues and problems and provided helpful solutions. She gave assignments and I can say it really helped. Deborah has a structure in place, I think she should continue with this pattern which is excellent.
I was very satisfied with the counseling session, her ability to listen and understand my concern was excellent. She listened and allowed me to share freely. Counselor Deborah helped me gain clarity and progress in addressing my concerns.
The session was very okay, I loved the fact that there was faith based support during the session. I felt comfortable discussing my concerns during the session.
She was patient and non-judgmental, which made it easy for me to open up about my struggles. I left the session feeling lighter and more hopeful.
The advice I received was practical and faith-based. I appreciate the follow-up and encouragement even after the session ended.
I felt truly heard and understood. The session helped me see my situation from a new perspective and take positive steps forward.